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DON’T LET EMOTIONS RULE YOUR LIFE. continued

 

I think we need to do some REVISION:

  • HAVE SELF BELIEF
  • HONESTY
  • BE IN THE MOMENT
  • BE MINDFUL AND AWARE OF POSITIVE EXPERIENCES
  • HAVE VALUES
  • BALANCE LIFE AND FUN
  • IT IS NOT ALL OR NOTHING
  • CHALLENGE THE SELF TALK
  • BE INDEPENDENT

 

Try and make conscientious and positive decisions. Do not let emotions that have guided you in the past continue to do so?

SO personally I think I should take that job, I will try and seize with both hands and take OWNERSHIP>

RELATIONSHIP SKILLS

Emotions connect you to other people and the world!   (My biggest fear about this new job is that I know the people and they do not like me or so I think??)

So to be effective let us revise INTERPERSONAL EFFECTIVENESS SKILLS.

  • Say No
  • Ask for what you need
  • Cope with conflict.

If we can do this we are getting our emotions across in a way that is clear and effective.

For example if we angry and we put this is not effective as the other person will not know what is going on etc.

MINDFULNESS APPLICATION

  1. Observe and describe: like a narrative, without making assumptions narrate in your head what is happening. This will also keep you focused.
  2. Take a non-judgemental stance._ do not evaluate the situation- SEE IT AND ACCEPT IT (JOB!!)
  3. STAY PRESENT do not leave the discussion without warning. Do not think and mind wander >>HOW WILL THIS TURN OUT?  Stay present and listen. Narrate. No judging.
  4. WILLING be open and stay on the discussion even if it is hard.

There maybe people and family members who make you feel ashamed, unhappy this can lead to contempt and hate for them.

*Rate how you feel about these people and what judgements you hold. And think how you currently cope. * (my sister and I)

To try and overcome these people, emotions and situations that makes us feel uncomfortable etc. We need EXPOSURE THERAPY

The more we confront and embrace these situations and people the easier it becomes.   To do this REMEMBER

  1. It is not easy.
  2. OBSERVE without judgement and describe watch actually happened
  3. MINDFUL be aware of how you feel, e.g. LET IT GO ( if you think I am useless let it go—fluffy bunnies)
  4. OPPOSITE ACTION if they make you feel uncomfortable, low self-esteem, engage and pretend to be confident, if angry smile.
  5. BREATHE- focus and tell yourself breathe rather than thoughts breathe, long and deep, describe it in your head.
  6. NON JUDGEMENTAL look with new eyes, see how you feel and stick to facts!!>